How to be young and emotionally intelligent in difficult situations.
If you are a young adult your brain is still developing and your body is adjusting to the change in horemones. However you can gain the skills you need to cope with issues such as bullying, body worries and examination stress-here's how.
What is emotional intelligence?
Emotional intelligence is the ability to be self aware and empathic when dealing with tough social situations. That means you have to be able to name your emotions, put yourself in the other person's shoes and manage your own behaviour.
The only way to develop emotional intelligence is to put it into practice.
Try it now. Ask yourself the following:
How am I feeling?
How might the other person think or feel?
What would I normally do?
How else could I approach this and what might happen as a consequence?
Doing this now when you are not already upset or stressed will tool you up, so that you will cope when troublesome and or annoying situations come your way.
Have a visual reminder.
Try printing out the image below and sticking it on your bedroom wall, inside your school planner, or keeping it in your bag. Having a reminder that you can look at will help you to focus on your goal of being in control.
Still finding it hard?
If you would still like some help with getting in control of your emotions and behaviour, why not speak to someone. Friends may share similar feelings and be able to offer you some helpful advice. A trusted teacher or youth worker may be able to refer you to an emotional intelligence workshop or program. Speaking with a counsellor will help you to understand if there is a deeper issue that needs to be addressed. A counsellor is also the best professional to support you in putting the steps into practice.
How do I know if my teen needs emotional intelligence training?
Even some adults struggle with their emotions but young people are particularly vulnerable to feeling overwhelmed by their feelings.
- Teachers complain about classroom outbursts.
My teen often walks off when I am talking.
My teen shouts insults at other children, teenagers or adults.
My teen bursts into tears when I ask how he/she is feeling.
My teen destroys personal items and the property of others.
If any of these statements sound familiar and its been more than six weeks then he/she would benefit.